Doc Love's The System - Dating Dictionary - An Analysis
Doc Love a.k.a. Thomas Hodges is a well-known dating/relationship coach for heterosexual men of all backgrounds. His profound knowledge comes from interviewing thousands of women over the last few decades and posing several questions on why a woman chooses to stay with one man versus another. He has also interviewed lots of men that are highly successful in this area, to decipher what exactly they do right that other men don't.
Doc Love's in-depth knowledge gathered from his interviews has resulted in:
- THE SYSTEM - THE DATING DICTIONARY
- THE MASTERY SERIES (MASTERY I, II and II)
THE SYSTEM - THE DATING DICTIONARY covers the fundamentals that set the stage for everything else. Once the Spartan-In-Training (Doc Love's student) fully internalises it, he can move on to the advanced Mastery Series.
THE SYSTEM covers lots of specific concepts involved in the dynamics of any relationship. Some of them are described as follows:
Interest Level: Perhaps you have heard that Location is everything in the real estate business. In the same way, a woman's Interest Level is everything in the dating game. Interest Level, simply put, refers to how much she is attracted to you.
When it is high, she will do anything to make your life easy, she always manages to find a reason to be with you and she treats you like a king! But when her Interest Level is low, she only makes excuses to avoid being with you, instead of finding reasons to be with you!
It is important to bear in mind that Interest Level is dynamic, and your actions will determine whether it rises up or falls down.
Confidence: This has two parts - Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem
Self-Confidence = Your level of belief in yourself. Perhaps it is possible to 'fake your confidence until you make it', but authentic confidence comes from having product knowledge of life in general and women in particular. And the more you demonstrate your ability by repeated practical application of your knowledge, the more your confidence grows.
Self-Esteem = The value you place on yourself. This is where it is necessary to say no to a woman every now and then, specially when she is asking for something that compromises your integrity. (Women always do this from time to time to test you!) But if you stand ground and refuse to budge, her Interest Level rises up. On the other hand, if you give in, it drops!
Challenge = How hard it is for the woman to win you over. So if you just flip for an attractive woman (like most guys do), you are being a zero challenge to her, because she needs to do absolutely nothing to win you over. Instead, if you keep your cool and refuse to budge until she displays not just physical attractiveness, but also good manners, proper behaviour and a flexible attitude; then she will sense that she needs to work a lot harder to win you over. That's challenge for you!
Control: This has three parts - Patience, Self-Discipline and Self-Control
Confidence, Challenge and Control comprise the masculine steel traits that raise a woman's Interest Level. And you need to practise all of them together!
If her Interest Level drops, you are probably missing out on one of the steel traits. On the other hand, once her Interest Level rises over 95%, whatever you do always seems perfect and flawless in her eyes! And this is exactly where you need to be in order to enjoy a 'heavenly' relationship.
However, there is something else required to keep her interest level high. You also need to practise what I call the masculine velvet traits.These are: Affection, Respect, Romance and Humour.
If you fail to practise the velvet traits, her Interest Level will drop again!
Also, while many of the other love doctors focus on seduction and short-term flings, Doc Love's THE SYSTEM - DATING DICTIONARY is more about being happy in lifelong relationships (though the principles of THE SYSTEM also work extremely well in short-term seduction).
And in order to have a happy relationship that lasts for life, Doc Love teaches that you not only need to measure a woman's Interest Level, but also need to gauge her Attitude.
To put it very plainly, her Interest Level is what you date, but her Attitude is what you marry (should you choose to do so).
Her attitude must have the following non-negotiables:
1. She must be self-reliant.
2. She must have a flexible nature.
3. She must be a giver.
4. She must have integrity, which in turn is comprised of loyalty, honesty and trustworthiness.
5. She must be clinically sane and free from psychological problems.
6. She must not have too much emotional baggage from the past.
THE SYSTEM will teach you how to test both her interest level and her attitude.
If you ignore a woman's attitude, you will only be courting disaster! And this can happen even if she has a high Interest Level in you. This is because her lousy attitude will end up lowering YOUR interest level over the long haul.
THE SYSTEM also teaches that once a woman's Interest Level drops below 50%, then it cannot be raised again. So the relationship is over for all practical purposes.
Men usually leave a relationship when their Interest Level drops below 50%. But women have a nesting tendency, so they tend to stick around and usually wait until it drops further below 40%.
Once this happens, she will definitely leave you. She has already built up enough resentment and hatred towards you, and now she becomes extremely vicious! This is when she might be inclined to falsely accuse you of rape, abuse or domestic violence....just to have her revenge.
And just in case you are wondering, there are several innocent men that have gone to jail due to this, and the courts do almostnothing to address the men's cause! In today's society, a woman is invariably treated as a victim until proven otherwise. On the other hand, a man is treated as guilty until proven innocent. Yes, it goes completely against the principles of a free society, but this is exactly how the law is implemented in most western countries! A very scary proposition indeed!
So if you want to avoid visiting a misandrist family court; or spending huge amounts of money on expensive divorce attorneys; or losing your hard-earned money and house to a vicious ex-wife; or losing custody of your children; or losing your sanity in general, you absolutely and positively need to be equipped with superior knowledge of women and dating.
It is no longer a luxury, but a necessity!
